GOING TO DAD'S FOR THE WEEKEND

THIS IS A CONVO I DECIDED TO COMMENT ON. CAN'T ALL THE COMMENT JUST A FEW THAT I ANSWERED TO AND WHY I MADE THE COMMENT I MADE. I WAS HIGHLY PISSED OFF AT A LOT OF THE COMMENTS SOME PEOPLE WERE SAYING. IF YOU HAVE NO EXPERIENCE IN THAT SITUATION DON'T GIVE ADVICE. JUST READ AND UNDERSTAND CAUSE IT MAY HAPPEN TO YOU. 

Grown Folks Conversations - Adult Version
GFCAV FRIEND HAS A QUESTION:

My baby's father is just now trying to really get in our son's life. Our son is 15 months old. He wants to step up and be a father and im not trying to stop him but the only problem is that he wants to pick him up for the weekend but he is living with this girl who has a 6 year old son with another guy and her and my baby dad got a seven month old son together. But my son is his first born. Anyway I dont feel comfortable with allowing him to pick our son up and take him to his gf's house because i dont want my son around another woman and i dont know their living conditions. If it was his own place that would be different i would feel more comfortable but he's living with her (his gf). So am I wrong for not wanting my son going to his gf's house?? What should i tell him?
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Gloria L Henny: No he's to young a 15 month old can't tell you what's going on and you don't know what type of woman or mom she is when your not looking. Your child safety means more then his feeling to many kids been harmed by the other woman. And sometimes those dumb asses think they are the replacement mom and you aint dead to be replace. My kids can't go to know body home without me check it first and knowing who is around my kids by knowing who goes there. Not to take away but to better secure your child safety. If he was a lil older yeah he can tell you who if it happen not saying it will hurt your child.

Start out with a few hours at a time then let it build. Because some men fav their new chick over the kid. Because my son father did he put that ugly thing feelings before his our son because she was a jealous bitch and that was his first and only visit and that was for 2 hours and he screwed up that bad. Not because she said something because what he said. He had the nerve to tell me I only his wife could setup visitation and not me. That was the last time he was able to take my son. Any man that put his next before his own child aint shyt.

So it's more important to know what type of man and father he is and who is important to him his new chick or his child. But I still recommend starting off with a few hours at a time unless you know the child is comfortable with the new chick. And she understand she aint raising your child. Chicks come and go you and the father will always be the parent of your child. And that goes as well for any dude you have in your life too.
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JM: You should ask him anything you are concerned about but you shouldn't keep him from getting his son how is the father he can't be that nasty or trifling if you was with him or before you dont want him around another women but what if he marries her or more importantly what about your life are you not going to have him around another man once you find one if you haven't already remember it all goes both ways so anything you dont want him to do you can't either
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Lisa Loyalandstrong Sessions: RT say it!! cuz m,y ex ant start gettn his kids till his mistress said something, now who they with on visitations, not his bum ass
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Gloria L Henny: I'm very annoyed by the comment that a parent don't have a say so on who their child is around REALLY. The mother has all the rights cause she is usually the custodio parent. My son father wanted be play daddy after he was found and summons to pay child support my son was 5 years old. He had the nerve the to bring her with him but not properly introduce her to me or his son. Hence the replacement mom. And the only reason he did show up is because I didn't know I was we had a court date but he did. So he wanted to play nice and try a role reversal to get out of paying. Because I didn't want him anymore he thought if he get more days then me I would have to pay him child support. But he was going to use his new chick to be the parent. This is also why alot of moms are murdered.

They setup the girlfriend to play the new mommy to avoid paying the real mother the child support. Some men rather lay were they pay and if they can't do that. They try to change the roles and will try and and make the real mother look like she is jealous and anger and she is only concern. If he has a problem with money and makes money a bigger priority then his child I'll tell any woman watch out for a man who's money is more important then his child.
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Gloria L Henny: I'm not saying every man and dad are like this but go by your instinct these people who tell you to let him see his child will not help you and they will not or can not replace your child if something happens. Child kidnapping and murder are done more by the father's trying to get out of payments or hide that child from their wife.